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Focusing on life in death

3.12.25

So on Monday, my dog transitioned.

And here’s what I’m reminded of, every time someone or something close to me passes away.

  1. Life is very temporary
  2. The body - as wonderful as it is, is only the vehicle carrying the life you truly are.
  3. Although the body isn’t who you are, it’s still painful and uncomfortable when the body is no longer around.
  4. I’m ALLOWED to be spiritual and see through the material nonsense of this world AND still be hurt, sad and in mourning that I won’t get to see my beautiful dogs face, every morning.
  5. Nobody cares and life moves on. It’s a sad truth but as I was burying my dog, I had to remind myself that no one actually cares and here’s what I mean… If I told my phone carrier, vehicle finance, vehicle insurance, business insurance, council, water and power rates etc that my dog died and I needed more time to pay my bills, they’d probably laugh, say they’re “sorry to hear” that and remind me when my bill was due.
  6. I have another dog that still needs my time, love and attention and it wouldn’t be fair for me to distance myself from him because I’m upset.

Now, I’m not telling you not to mourn or grieve your loved ones, I’m telling you to find YOUR WAY to move forward through the pain.

Here’s what worked for me…

Control the controllables.

And here’s what I can control - How I REACT to what I think and how I feel.

My dog passing could’ve made me spiral really bad but instead I chose to sing to myself "It's the circle of life" from The Lion King and pour my energy into writing and illustrating a children’s book about my dog, Harley.

For you, it may mean laying in bed for a couple of days. Going to the gym. Walking in nature. Being around other loved ones. Writing a poem. Painting. Cooking. Whatever it is FOR YOU, don't deny it... Work with it.

Your feelings are meant to be felt, so be aware if you’re doing any of these things to avoid what you think and how you feel because the aim isn’t to avoid and deny yourself… The aim is to express yourself.

And what is your true Self?

Uncontional love.